We all have an innate desire to be witnessed in our recovery process. It may sound corny, but finding safe communities to grow and be witnessed in are of paramount importance. “Find your tribe” is a saying splattered across wellness circles, but the added layer of being sober can make it initially hard to do so. Though it may be tempting to try and go at sobriety alone, or with one other individual like a therapist or coach, the benefits of diving into a sober community are well worth the initial fears and hesitancies. You may have a knee-jerk reaction to the word community, in which case, find a word that works for you, like crew, gang, or one of my favorites: “my people.”
Why Join a Community?
A community can be defined as a group of people living in the same place or a group sharing similar characteristics, attitudes, or interests in common. Being part of a community–watching how it moves around, changes, and grows in its various iterations is a rewarding experience. To be able to say, “Remember when this group used to…” is a great indicator of longevity–of the group as well as your personal history within it. To feel like you’re part of something larger is another indescribable experience. Sometimes I get that feeling when I gaze at the moon or stars, as cheesy as that sounds, but it’s a feeling that takes me out of whatever existential dilemma or obsession I’m currently hijacked by. In addition to recovery groups, which I’ll go into below, it’s important to balance different kinds of communities around all of your interests if possible, like art, exercise, […]