In many ways, the COVID-19 pandemic requires those of us in recovery from substance use disorder to stay especially vigilant about our boundaries around our sobriety as well as our changing relationships to ourselves, others, and our physical surroundings. A call to strengthen recovery boundaries may sound like a paradox in a time where restrictions are aplenty, but restrictions denote a sense of deprivation whereas holding and maintaining boundaries — another important addition for your sober toolbox in a pandemic — can usher in a sense of space, abundance, and spiritual growth towards your recovery.
Definition of a Boundary
Boundaries aren’t walls. They are non-negotiable feelings, thoughts, needs and preferences that are unique to you explaining what you will or will not do, accept, or tolerate. Boundaries demonstrate where we end and someone else […]
Working a program of recovery during this COVID-19 pandemic may be tricky but it is important however you choose to go about it. This is an opportune moment to double down on existing and new recovery tools, a time to recalibrate and focus on what you have been meaning to dive into. If, like me, you were privy to FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) before the pandemic struck, you may feel those anxieties soften upon self-quarantining. With less options for outdoor activity and social gatherings, I’ve experienced more space and time around recovery work I have been putting off, like reading program literature and completing stepwork. There is no singular way to navigate a pandemic and no fixed set of tools, but read on for some practical ones that will guide you towards a sane and […]
In light of the Covid-19 pandemic, traveling in sobriety may be the last thing to cross your mind as we’re being encouraged to engage in social distancing and refrain from leaving home. However, the various states of quarantine will be over at some point this spring, and travel opportunities and adventures will await you more than ever in your recovery. You might even be making up for lost time by plotting out travel itineraries that may not have come to you had you not been at home in the throes of cabin fever. Whether you plan on traversing cities, countries, or continents, similar challenges of traveling as a sober person may arise for you. But just as there are challenges, there are joys and blessings of sober travel that far surpass the ephemeral pleasures that substances can provide […]
You’ve broken up with alcohol and drugs, but have you grieved their absence (and the lifestyle those substances encouraged) in your life? They served a purpose but maybe you started to experience a kind of betrayal trauma when they started to turn on you, and you became willing to let them go. Whether you’re completely breaking up with substances, a person, a situation, or just in need of a little break from them, I highly advocate for giving yourself permission to take space. In the everyday sense of the phrase, “taking a break” is crucial in order to avoid burnout while bulldozing through daily activities. With its many connotations, the act of stepping away is ultimately a productive and important action to take that will enrich and brighten your recovery to a state where busyness and […]
We all have an innate desire to be witnessed in our recovery process. It may sound corny, but finding safe communities to grow and be witnessed in are of paramount importance. “Find your tribe” is a saying splattered across wellness circles, but the added layer of being sober can make it initially hard to do so. Though it may be tempting to try and go at sobriety alone, or with one other individual like a therapist or coach, the benefits of diving into a sober community are well worth the initial fears and hesitancies. You may have a knee-jerk reaction to the word community, in which case, find a word that works for you, like crew, gang, or one of my favorites: “my people.”
Why Join a Community?
A community can be defined as […]
“New year, new me,” is a common adage flashed and scattered across social media for ushering in the new year, though oftentimes used ironically or as a joke. The hyperbolic saying alludes to the idea that somehow, because of the turn of the clock, one must magically gather perspective on how they have been throughout the year and get their act together, as if one were broken, as if there were things to fix. This kind of thinking riddles me with low-grade hopeful anxiety. I distinctly recall binge-reading journal entries on a New Year’s Eve trying to remember what it was I did that year and how I was feeling–an attempt to have it make sense and point towards where I thought I needed to charge ahead.
For those of us in recovery, our “soberversary” […]